I’ve had a blog for YEARS on Blogspot and just racked up the same number of followers in one day on this one. Let’s hear it for women looking everywhere for kindred spirits and some information regarding artificial insemination! 😉
I really should have stated this earlier and since I’ve received my first question (more on that in a sec), it’s time.
DISCLAIMER: This blog reflects my partner’s and my experience. We were (in retrospect) clueless going into it and at the mercy of whatever information we could glean from friends, our doctor, and the internet. And as many of you have already experienced yourselves, that’s a hot mess.
I’m not certain the HSG test will work for everyone who is struggling with repeated IUI attempts. My beef with the test not being ordered is that it’s a no-brainer to me: before anyone tries IUI, why isn’t anyone checking to make sure the tubes are open? Like I said earlier, you can have the greatest, most eager eggs in multiples and a whole syringe of Michael Phelps’ sperm, but if your tubes are clogged and they can’t get to each other, what in the hell is everyone doing??
We’re fortunate in that there are two reproductive centers in our area. The only problem was, we couldn’t afford their services. Maybe my partner would have undergone a battery of tests before trying had we gone to them. But if we had, we wouldn’t have been able to afford the IUI specimens or worse — we wouldn’t have been able to afford to raise the child we were spending all of our money trying to produce!
My partner switched to her best friend’s OBGYN this year and went in for a pre-pregnancy-attempt check under the hood. She was surprised to see the doctor had infertility listed as a service and when she asked her about it, she was told that yes, the OBGYN could do the IUI procedure and at a fraction of what the fertility centers charge.
And so we were off to the races.
We love our doctor and based on my partner’s age (33) and her overall health (excellent), she acted as if this would be a one-and-done prospect.
Well, lucky for us it wasn’t. We might have saved some moola, but did I mention clueless? It wasn’t until we were approaching our third attempt that we discovered we’d been calculating the due date wrong the whole time. My partner is a teacher, so we wanted to coordinate (as much as possible) her maternity leave with summer so that one would run into the other. Had we actually gotten pregnant the first time, she would be delivering in January.
Whoops.
But as much as we love our doctor, my partner had to pretty much demand the HSG test after the second failed IUI attempt.
So I’m not entirely sure what the answer is to the question posed in the first comment on Fire in the Hole! I know that you have to be your own advocate with most medical care, but we found that we really had to direct a lot of this and I, for one, found myself resenting it a lot of the time.
We needed help and while some folks acted as if they were helping us, they really weren’t. They were behaving as if we had this endless supply of time and money and patience, which we didn’t.
If I had it to do over again, I would have gone to medical school before starting this. 🙂
Almost forgot! As for the HSG and pain — yes, my partner was lulled into a false sense of security, too. But that’s the thing — if your tubes are clear, I imagine it is virtually painless. And most women probably don’t have fully clogged tubes. My partner’s was painful because she was fully clogged.
I still think a good Roto Rootering of the pipes before starting would save a lot of people a lot of time, money, frustration, and heartache. And the statistics on pregnancy following HSG seem to back that up.
Just be aware that some doctors may have valid reasons for not ordering the test — and some may not.
My favorite part of this? When my partner told our OBGYN how painful the test had been for her, our doctor said, “Oh, I know! I’ve had it done!”
&^%$#@!